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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They may have a SAH spouse or a spouse without a lot of earning potential.  If you make 20% of a biglaw salary and are slightly the breadwinner I would ballpark your salary at $150K and your spouse's salary at $125K which is a really good HHI.  About the same as ours actually.

Also, I think some fields don't lend themselves as well to in-house or govt work so they may be legitimately choosing between biglaw or medium law where the workload is about the same between them.[/quote]
This poster gets it.

Spouse ends up a SAHP because Big Law lawyer can’t contribute very much at home, but then lawyer has to stay in Big Law because other spouse isn’t bringing in money. Lawyer leans into career even more because they’re the sole breadwinner, which further limits SAHP’s options because lawyer isn’t going to stay home with sick kids or to let the plumber in and doesn’t have the time or energy to help with household chores. SAHP outsources some chores because, otherwise, what’s even the point of having this money? Expenses go up due to some outsourcing and Big Law sole breadwinner feels trapped by golden handcuffs.[/quote]

These are all choices. Did you know that some people, after having kids, realize that their jobs are not compatible with being present in their kids' lives, and they change jobs? Did you know that some couples have frank conversations about how their careers impact their marriage and family, and make these decisions jointly so that the family functions well? [b]Did you know that plenty of smart, talented people choose to pursue careers where they don't make super high incomes, accepting that might mean a smaller home or public school for their kids, but find it worth it because of the lifestyle benefits and the realization that having all that money might not actually be worth it if you are miserable.

Golden handcuffs are imaginary.[/b] Stop acting helpless about your own life.[/quote]

I make $300K/year, live in Silver Spring, and shop at thrift stores.  For years, we have deliberately made choices that enable us to live as we wish.[/quote]

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