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[quote=Anonymous]For me it's been a mix. Some of the MGs have ended up with lives that I would not have been happy with, others have done as well or better. The shock came when I realized that they were still friends with each other and still didn't want me around - 20 years later. (We were in touch for a short time a couple years ago. Still not invited.) Anyway, obviously they have a bond with each other they don't have with me. It stung because I had hoped to heal some of the old wounds by being back in touch with them and, to be totally honest, showing off. But, they c*ck blocked me yet again.

That experience made me realize that I was looking to them for validation that I was never going to get and, in truth, really didn't need. It really doesn't matter what happens to them or if they ever like me. I have plenty of deep friendships and a happy life. I am a good person, whether the MGs ever acknowledge it or not. Nothing they do or say is relevant to my life in any way. They are just people I went to HS with and the only way they matter is if I let it happen.

So, OP, my BTDT advice is to not let it happen. Don't let them matter enough to care what happens to them - good or bad. They don't care what happens to you. That doesn't make you or them bad people. It simply makes you strangers. Ignore them like you would ignore anyone you don't know well and focus on the people who bring positive stuff into your life.

And, PS, there's this 30 Rock episode in which Liz goes back to her HS reunion all ready to get even with the MGs who tortured her. What she discovered was that all the girls she'd thought had victimized her, well they felt victimized by Liz. Liz thought she had just reacted to being treated badly, but the MGs saw her as the aggressor. I'm not saying that you were a MG OP, but it did make me think about my own sense of being victimized by MGs and made me wonder what my own behavior must have looked like to them from the outside. In the end I think we just have to accept that HS is miserable for everyone and leave it at that.[/quote]

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