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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I honestly don’t understand why some women think they need to take charge of a grown man’s relationship with his family, and what that needs to look like.

My brother is a great person who loves his family. He shows us that by calling and texting, visiting, and inviting us over for holidays, etc. He doesn’t do gifts, but he does call for birthdays and holidays that we aren’t together. He also sends my mom flowers for Mother’s Day and usually takes my dad out to lunch or something else that’s fairly low-key.

And that’s fine. He’s a grown adult, and he’s not big into giving (or receiving) gifts. I’m glad his significant other doesn’t pressure him or wheedle or whine or “take over.” His SO is great and often joins in on the call, or sends a text, and is generally very friendly with us.

As for the argument of “well then if he doesn’t send a gift, they think we’re bad people.” First of all, so what? No one is owed a gift, and acting entitled to one makes you the bad person and not the other way around. Second, why aren’t you replying, “I guess the son you raised doesn’t send cards or gifts.” [/quote]

If it a your husband's brother, you would have a big problem with him being low key. That would have made him a loser. [/quote]

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