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[quote=Anonymous]OP, it seems the replies on page 1 at least are focused on what you may have done wrong or what you should do.

Having come from a family of varied success early on (now we are all successful in our own ways with pretty decent family lives) and plenty of alcohol and mental health issues with ADHD/erratic behavior from my 2 alcoholic, smart ADHD brothers in their younger years before sobriety, I would like to say - take care of yourself first.  Take up a hobby or pickleball, get therapy, learn to meditate or start yoga, art class - something just for you.  Exercise daily, call friends, change up your life some.

Your kids are now adults and they are fully responsible for their own success and happiness. You did your best, you can offer a brief apology for any wrongs they feel, but it is not now on you - contrary to all the feedback here!

You can certainly offer suggestions if they ask, write them a letter suggesting they get tested for adhd and start treatment etc., look at possible addictions or whatever, but it's up to them to follow through and they may not. Unless they are deep in the throes of an addiction and your family wants to do an intervention, it's not really on you or about you.

I would say do what you can to celebrate any small success - a new job, a new place, etc, be as positive of a force as you can without financing them.

Life is short and you deserve to develop your own peace of mind. It's not easy. I struggle with it every day with my own life-a DH with a degenerative neurological condition and an ADD young adult who has had many struggles. I've had to develop some good habits for myself to survive and thrive. You can do it![/quote]

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