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[quote=Anonymous]My parents thought our family was great. But we weren't allowed to have friends almost ever - I can count on one hand the number of times I was allowed. I got grounded all the time for ridiculous things - not sneaking out or throwing parties but truly ridiculous things. I wasn't ever allowed to express anger. When my parents were wrong they never apologized. I had a long list of chores to do daily that took hours and my mother would sit on the couch with her feet up saying I missed a spot dusting or vacuuming. I had to spend hours each fall raking and bagging leaves and each winter hours shoveling the walk and driveway. We went on vacation once a year max, and they were spent waiting around while my mother spent hours in museums. I wasn't allowed to decorate my bedroom the way I wanted. My mother gave me the bedroom decor she wished she'd had when she was a child, and couldn't grasp I was a different person than her, and got angry and hurt that I didn't fall all over myself thanking her for giving me what she'd wanted. If I wanted to call a friend, I had to say what I wanted to talk to them about, and how long I wanted to be on the phone for, and my mother would decide whether that was acceptable. Any time she caught me talking about anything she hadn't approved, I was banned from social calls for weeks or even months. Everything was very boring - even the colors were various shades of tan and brown.

But yes, my parents thought our home life was harmonious and vibrant. I, like your son, also couldn't wait to leave. [/quote]

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