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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your father is 80.  You haven’t seen him for a long time, but your sisters have.  So you’re thinking of him how he was the last time you saw him, but he’s gotten older.  They’ve seen him recently.  There may be practical reasons that you should make plans with your father ahead of time.  Older people may need more time just to get ready, may have a regular schedule of doctors’ appointments and like to keep their routine.  You shouldn’t expect to call him out of the blue in the morning and expect him to drop everything to see you for lunch the same day.  It would be more considerate to call him at least the day before to invite him out, but issuing your invitation much earlier would be even better.

If your father flew into town here and called you in the morning to see you for lunch that same day, you’d probably be upset with him for giving you such short notice, too.

Unless you know that your father has put it in his will, don’t assume that your older sister getting the house is a done deal.  She doesn’t get it all just because she’s living in the house with her father.  [/quote]

OP - thank you, this is good perspective I hadn’t considered. He still drives and travels so he’s not infirmed. But I called and spoke to him today. He said he’ll meet with my family and not include my older sister so hopefully he keeps his word on that [/quote]

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