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[quote=Anonymous]one of the previous poster's story reminded me of someone I know who had a horribly abusive and neglected childhood--mother/drug addict took off, "raised" by abusive alcoholic father, homeless/lived in sros, etc. but an incredibly brilliant kid. managed to get by in high school working 2 jobs, crashing with friends/their families in junior/senior year simply for housing, had support from a few teachers, eventually got full ride to college and then grad school, founded a tech company in the early 90s, sold for a couple hundred million to microsoft. That being said, there was a lot of damage and not sure he's really "happy" (he never got married/had kids, has had periods of deep depression).

my story is much more boring and insular but there was someone in grad school in our small program who ended up sort of a nemesis (and I have never had one before or since....the entire concept is kind of foreign to me). she crashed with me for a while between apartments and proceeded to sleep with my boyfriend when i was out of town (he sucked too, of course, they are a pair of sociopaths) and they carried on secretly for a while (neither of them told me) and then she tried to undermine me with our (shared) thesis advisor--didn't help that she was the 'star' grad student and I had horrible imposter syndrome.  I broke up with the dickwad, but was so deeply depressed during this time  and directionless and she was this brilliant, beautiful hot shot who everyone thought would go on to greatness whereas I was a loser who had wasted years in a pointless phd program. two years later,  I get a one year fellowship at an institute where she had done the same fellowship the year before but I assume she would have left. turns out she stayed on there (later found out because she was having an affair with her married supervisor) ...ugh, it was so awful since we had to interact a lot. She eventually left and got a teaching job....and then flamed out. never published, thus didn't get tenure, and from what i hear has been more or less unemployed (and I think single?) for the past decade, whereas I've done respectably well in both professional and personal life. I sometimes wonder what was wrong with her internally to be like that, there must have been something missing inside, since she seemed to have it all on the outside. I am not even mad or angry, just kind of sad that I allowed myself to be depressed and affected by it. [/quote]

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