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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is a lot of pressure to be LGBTQ mid and highschool. Ensure they feel supported to be the gay or straight equally.[/quote]

This is so funny.  I’m LGBT and have a kid in MS and one in HS and neither of them seems pressured to “be” LGBTQ.  Hint: you can’t be pressured into actually liking or being aroused by someone.  You either are or you are not.  As an adult, if you’re a woman that is straight, you don’t get aroused at the thought of other women.  The whole “pressure” thing seems to not only be a lie but also doesn’t even make sense as being gay is not a choice but a biological reality.  [/quote]

NP. I think there is a fair amount of pressure to label one’s self, starting around 6th to 7th grade. And LGBTQIA+ is a catch-all for a wide swath of kids who don’t fit standard molds for all kinds of reasons, many of which have little or nothing to do with arousal. At least that’s what I observed with my own teen. [/quote]

So what, your 15 year old boy is calling himself gay while being attracted to girls?   Your 13 year old girl is calling herself a lesbian while being attracted to boys?  Or are they saying bi while only dating the opposite gender?[/quote]

More like lots of 12-14 year old girls labeling themselves pan or omni or (my personal favorite for a young teen) ace, and dating no one. There’s pressure to declare, for sure.[/quote]

If someone is identifying as pan or ace then later realized they weren’t, so what?  If someone identifies as one of those then turns out really to be, so what?  I think hand wringing over someone that’s 14 saying they’re ace is kind of silly.    It’s far from an emergency.[/quote]

Did I say it was an emergency? I agree with you, so what? I was responding specifically to the notion of there being pressure to identify as something—which often turns out to be in the LGBTQIA+ spectrum—among groups of young teenage girls. It’s a thing. No handwringing. Asexual is a solid plan at 13.[/quote]

I have a teen daughter and she doesn’t identify as LGBT.  If she did, she knows it would be fine since her parents are.  But….she doesn’t.  So I don’t think there’s that much pressure to claim you’re queer when you’re not.[/quote]

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