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[quote=Anonymous]Don't project onto her, please. Ask her if she wants help preparing, or if you have the means, offer to get her a session with a private coach or something like that. Support her in what she wants to try. The desire to try should be commended! Be there for her if she doesn't make it and is disappointed. This is life! You have got to be willing to try a lot of things, even when you are not good at them. This is so so important.

I tried out for our (4x state championship winning) HS sports team with zero experience and got cut. I was foolish to think I could make it and it was embarrassing for sure, but it was FINE. I was mediocre at every sport I tried, made some teams, did not make some teams. Tried out for one team a bunch of years in a row, got cut, made JV sophomore year, and then made varsity junior and senior year. Senior year I won sportsmanship and team awards for every sport I participated in, pretty much just for being a good team player, trying hard, being coachable, and persevering. Because it sure wasn't for my ability or performance - I wasn't very good at anything. My parents required me to participate in a sport each season, but otherwise were not involved in selecting the sport or doing anything other than attend competitions. This encouragement and support was such a gift.[/quote]

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