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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No, and you shouldn't need them to help you move. You're two adults. Act like it - hire movers like normal people. You can't ask people for help but then say "Oh, but you can't stay here" - are they supposed to help you move but also pay for the gas to travel to you AND three meals a day?  It shouldn't cost THEM money to help you move. Tell them to come visit you in the new house a week or month after you've moved and just hire movers for half a day.[/quote]

OP here. To be clear, we are hiring movers. They would be offended if we told them not to come. [/quote]

You need to learn now not to worry about whether they act offended. Old people often lack filters. When they don’t get their way they may act offended, scoff, pout and behave in ways that would be embarrassing for an adult. It’s similar to a toddler stamping their foot, throwing a tantrum or a young teen slamming a door. It’s a lack of emotional regulation. As an adult the way to handle all this is to stay calm, hold firm and don’t take it personally.

It doesn’t work to have them “help” while you are moving. Don’t enable a situation that will make everyone miserable or cost you hundreds more because you can’t deal with poorly behaved old people. [/quote]

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