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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP of the backing out of grandparent visit thread with an example of what happens when you set a boundary:

We said no to the grandprent visit citing our enjoyment of San Francisco. DH sister who lives in SF and has turned down all offers to meet up while we visit saying she’s too busy, called DH last night at midnight, over and over again until he picked up thinking something was seriously wrong.

Well SIL was very upset asking DH what his problem is, asking over  and over again what happened during the earlier visit, scolding him for being so selfish to not visit them again when that the whole point of visiting all the way from DC is to see their parents (what?? no, that is something she invented) and it is so selfish of him to stay in an airbnb in san francisco. And that any mean or vicious thing that the MIL/FIL said or did, we need to let it go because they are old and old fashioned and probably didnt mean it and we need to treasure every moment with them because they are old and may not have many years left (they are mid sixties in excellent health, physically at least)

Note that at no time did DH sister offer to meet up with us during her tirade about the imprtance of family togetherness time, lol.

Anyway the next day, MIL called up and left a voicemail offering to come visit us in the city…she was clear she is not making a special tripC it happens that she’s coming in anyway for her monthly beauty treatment/spa visit and she might have about 20 min to spare before she has to beat traffic back to Tracy, so she can say goodbye to her grandkids.

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What kind of spineless nit stays on the phone at midnight after quickly establishing that no one was in the hospital, or had died? Um, if one of my siblings or siblings-in-law, or their spouses, called me at midnight to discuss anything other than someone in the hospital or dead, that would be a CLICK.

Practice it with me: CLICK.

Yip yip yap, too long, yammer yammer when your husband should have hung up on her. It is that simple.[/quote]

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