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[quote=Anonymous]I didn't know he was married. There was no ring indent on his finger or tan line. His phone lock screen was basic without any family photos. His phone background was the same. He was never distracted while with me or flighty, making excuses for why he needed to take a phone call or cut a date short. When we were together, we were 100% together. He spent the night with me, we vacationed together, and I met his brother (supposedly? Who knows - he told me his only family was a brother.). He was active on social media with friends!

I found out in the most random way, too. He was my plus one for a colleague's wedding. Another guest at that wedding knew his wife.

When the truth came out, he was basically living a double life. His work brought him to the DC area but he lived in Philly, which I never knew. I thought he lived in DC full time and traveled from here for work to other areas (Philly, Newark, Boston, NYC). His apartment here in DC was really an apartment owned by his office. I still don't understand how someone could live their life with so many lies about everything. Looking at everything he did, all the lies he told and the stories he had to keep straight, it just seems so exhausting. We were together for just under 18 months, too.

I didn't date for about 2 years after that and I still have some major trust issues. Even in my case where I had no idea, his wife was SO upset with me. She harassed me on social media and some of her friends & family did as well. She texted me from 3 different numbers and I had to block them all. It was crazy. I felt worse for her when everything came out than in the weeks following it all coming out because so much of her anger was directed at me instead of him, which still baffles me. I thought I had him blocked on all social media but about a year or so ago one of his friends that I had friended on Instagram (and forgotten about) posted some photos from a kid's bday party and there the guy was WITH his wife, so they worked things out.      [/quote]

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