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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t know exactly but I think the stigma is being reduced. I think there is a whole book with stories or anecdotes from moms who regret having kids.

I’m glad people are actually saying it. Those stories are important to hear for those who are deciding whether or not to have kids.

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You do not decide to be or not to be a parent based on other people's opinion.  You do ant to hear about the struggles of other parents ho bring kids into dysfunctional situations, or have  deal ith  sn kids.  It gives you perspective that you should not bring kids into dysfunctional relationships etc.

But, to say that you regret your kid's existence once they are born is making a bad situation worse and you are a very damaged individual for saying this.  [/quote]

I don’t regret having kids.

There is a saying: “you might regret not having kids but you’ll *never* regret having them.” This is, obviously, untrue, but the sentiment persists in part because it is so severely socially unacceptable to admit you regret having kids. A lot of people have had kids based on that saying. Just knowing that yes, you very well might regret having kids would stop a lot of people from making the wrong choice.

Obviously nobody should say this to their child. But we avoid saying a lot of things to our children, so this isn’t unique in that regard.  [/quote]

It also plays into the logic anti-choicers are using to justify banning abortion. If you can’t regret a child once it’s here, you just have to get a woman through birth then it will all work out. So it’s not just wrong, it’s being used in a dangerous way politically.[/quote]

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