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[quote=Anonymous]When I was younger, I would have been embarrassed to say I had been bullied. With decades more wisdom, I judge them for their behavior rather than judging myself. You did the best you could in a horrible situation. Show yourself compassion. Also, feelings aren’t shameful, they’re involuntary and they are what they are. Feel what you need to feel but don’t get stuck. This woman hurt you badly as a kid. The last thing you want to do is let her occupy more space in your brain now that she’s gone. I find it helpful to do a version of forgiveness. My forgiveness doesn’t mean I don’t judge them or want anything to do with them (if they’re alive), it just means I accept that they made mistakes and may or may not have had stuff going on in their lives that brought out the cruelty in them, but either way, their baggage is not my baggage and I’m letting it go. I don’t wish them harm because I don’t give them headspace at all. [/quote]
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