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[quote=Anonymous]You might want to rethink how you are approaching the power dynamic between you and the father if you want to avoid long term problems.  You decided not to put the father on the birth certificate --you decided that when you knew full well who the father was.  You don't want a legal agreement because you are afraid that you will be disadvantaged and you don't really think that his rights are worth respecting.  You think that he isn't qualified to be left alone with the baby because his skills with a newborn are only as good as yours were 9 WEEKS AGO.  He does not sound like the controlling one. You, however, do.

If he is young and immature now (as you admit that you were at his age) then remember that he will someday be the age that you are now and will likely be as mature as you are now.  Make sure that you are treating him fairly, the way that you would have wanted someone to treat you in your twenties.  You sound like a nice person who doesn't have an underhanded agenda but also like someone who thinks that her rights will always and should always trump the father's.  You cannot just move a few states away because you want to. You cannot give him only supervised visitation because that is what you are comfortable with.  You made a baby with this person and now you need to act like you understand the consequences of your circumstance.  [/quote]

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