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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve been living with my boyfriend, who is admittedly a clean freak. I’m naturally fairly messy, but do my best to keep everything clean. However, [b]he get agitated if the house is messy for even a few hours. He’ll get mad for hours; usually these blowups occur in the mornings for some reason. [/b]I’m at my wits end. Are we just not compatible? I’ve been forcing him to get a therapist for his anxiety but don’t know if it will be enough. [/quote]

This guy is not compatible with anyone.  Please leave.  This kind of verbal/emotional abuse is designed to make you walk on eggshells, constantly modifying your behavior to be compliant and please him.

It is not adult behavior.  It may be due to anxiety, but it is not your job to force him to go to the therapist.  If you are feeling extraordinarily kind, you tell him once that his explosive temper is unacceptable and he should see the therapist.  The second time it happens, you leave.

Women get sucked into abusive relationships because they don't draw boundaries early on when they encounter boundary-testing behavior.

Ask me how I know? [/quote]

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