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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I don’t know if it qualifies as emotional abuse or not, all
I know is that my two daughters both woke up this morning sad because their dad was wasted and we were arguing. I feel horrible too. He is very remorseful and apologetic this morning but it’s just not enough. I can only see either we end here or I live in worry that my kids will be exposed to this again. I feel horrible for them :(
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In that moment you have a come to Jesus talk with him. He is in a remorseful state, use that. Tell him he makes plans (you help him on this) to get treatment, or you are done. Meanwhile, do the other stuff you need to do. You are not bluffing. Be ready.[/quote]

Thank you. I like this. I’m not clear what type of treatment I should look for. A therapist with experience in substance abuse who could help figure out if he needs more or different help perhaps?[/quote]

How is it substance abuse if it was one time? You said he wasn't even that drunk. So either (i) his alcohol mixed with medication (which is not something you hold against him, though you make sure he works with his MD to resolve the issue); or (ii) he wasn't really drunk at all, he was just a total dick on a one-time occasion. Which is not cool, and you deserve a serious apology for. But you don't divorce over. [/quote]

OP here. No, I said he was VERY drunk, but based on what I saw he didn’t drink that much so he got really drunk with not that much drinking (a couple of beers and a few cocktails). He couldn’t put coherent sentences together and couldn’t walk straight and when I told him to go to bed he lost it and started yelling at me and calling our friends (which I’m mortified about, trying to remind myself it was him who made a completely fool of himself and not me but … well, not easy).

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This sounds medical. I don't understand why you even suggested emotional abuse for an erratic episode. You don't know what emotional abuse is. Honestly, you sound like you have had a very smooth marriage and don't know how do deal with any difficultly. This truly sounds like a health issue. Don't mix meds and drink. Get a grip, lady. [/quote]

None of us were there. At face value she is clearly indicating she's *here* bec this was not just an annoying event, so be more respectful please.[/quote]

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