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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m sorry you are going through this OP. You are a good mom for thinking about the well being of your kids first. Setting aside the drunk incident last night (which was not ok in my opinion), are you experiencing other issues in your marriage? Have you been happy otherwise or are there other aspects that bother/worry you that makes this feel like the final straw? [/quote]

Thank you for your kind words. It really helps.

I think you make a very good observation. If I’m honest with myself, I don’t think I’ve been happy for quite some time. We get along fine and co-parent well and he does more than his fair share around the house and with the kids (more than me on balance probably). But there isn’t much love left and he tends to get very argumentative when he drinks (though not like last night which was the first time the kids had to see him this drunk). We don’t have much in common either and when we do things together it’s mostly with the kids. We’ve talked about separating before but as a child of divorced parents myself I really really didn’t want my kids to go through that. I think yesterday’s incident made me think whether I’m doing the kids a favor or not, as I honestly would want them to have higher standards of their marriage than I do myself..

Separately, should I reach out to my kids’ friend’s mom who he called last night? Not sure if or how to apologize on his behalf . Argh.

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Ugh sorry op, I just saw this after my last post. The way you mention argumentative when he drinks sounds like it is more than a one time thing. Do you think he has an alcohol problem? You sound like a really good human and mom! I hope you all are able to work this out but agree he needs to get help and you are not overreacting that this is NOT OKAY. I just was reacting to the divorce part.[/quote]

Yep. While divorcing over this one incident would be nuts, I think OP has been ignoring this guy’s alcoholism for a long time. [/quote]

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