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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is the  dumbest "complaint" I have ever heard.  OP is already doing 90% of the work for one elderly relative, and is upset that she doesn't have to do the same for 2 others, who don't live nearby?

OP, you should be doing a jig, not being angry about this.  Get a grip.  [/quote]

Because she has to talk to him about everything and he controls everything including the money.[/quote]

Yep. I "dropped the rope" OP and went to visit parents and bought them a few things they needed as gifts, but did not do any more work. Reminded them it was older brother now and since they placed him in charge....

If my brother had reached out to me to split duties and consulted me, I would have helped him 50/50. When I asked for access to a checking account so I could buy my dad things,  he refused and said I had to record alle expenses on spreadsheets. Like I was untrustworthy, about to steal, and it would take more time for me to fill out spreadsheets than just buy $30 worth of stuff every few months, so I stepped away.

I never asked him for one single damn dime of the money I spent making sure our parents had Kleenex and toothpaste and underwear, as I considered it gifts. I also stopped doing all work and communication and that was all up to him, which took a lot more time and money from his side of the equation.

So I would feel your feelings OP, and then see if your brother wants to meet, divide up tasks, and give you access to some money. If he doesn't, the job is all on him. [/quote]

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