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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can't believes so many of you don't get it. I think OP was just hoping some kind kid or kids would show up. She wasn't trying to have some huge party. Obviously if her child had 2-3 close friends she would have just done something with them.[/quote]

No, you are the one that doesn’t seem to get it. Kids don’t just show up at this age unless they are friends or know friends are coming, as they are also awkward, socially self conscious, and don’t want to be the only one around people they don’t know.

My daughter invited her entire block class in 6th grade to a Halloween party the Saturday before Halloween and only one kid showed who wasn’t a friend - luckily it wasn’t awkward bc he wasn’t the only one. But I never would have let her do that if I wasn’t positive that at least a couple friends would be there (it was 10-12 kids I think)

Mom/dad needed to ensure at least a couple friends before doing an all group invite [/quote]

OP does not need a lecture about how unpopular her child is right now or how her strategy did not work. She knows this. Inviting all those people was a desperate attempt. OP I do think a better strategy next time would be to confirm individually with a few friends or classmates.

To the PP who said kids don't randomly just show up it sounds like you are raising an unkind child. My child is 12 and was invited to several parties thrown by people they were not particularly close with. They saw it as an opportunity to get to know the other child better and they were glad they went as they were one of only a handful who attended. [/quote]

My DD has been invited to many birthday parties she has not attended. Usually, the reasons are twofold. While she may know the birthday kid, she doesn’t know anyone else who is invited. These are extremely awkward, and for that reason, she doesn’t invite to her own birthday, anyone that doesn’t know at least one other person that is going to be there.

The second is a matter of logistics. She has activities both Saturday and Sunday, so the timing might not work out. For close friends, she’ll try to rearrange her schedule if she has adequate notice, but it isn’t always possible. But then, close friends also try to talk to everyone to get an idea of when they can all make it, and then schedule the day/time. [/quote]

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