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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When I've seen this complaint from dads, it's usually because Dad sees his visitation/custody time as something he "owns" and his right to control his child during that time.  He doesn't see the time as an opportunity to be part of his kid's life.

A couple years ago there was a several page thread where a Dad was mad that his daughter was on a dance team, and the team practiced on friday nights (he had every other weekend, including friday nights.)   
He didn't think his daughter should go to dance rehersal on "his" time.   Instead of seeing thisn (bringing her to rehersal) as an opportunity to be part of something she loved he saw it as his ex trying to keep him from having exclusive access to his daughter during "his" time.
Some Dad's feel if their kid happens to have any hobbies, sports, time with friends, etc. on "his" time, it's some devious plot on the part of the mom to "alienate" dad.[/quote]

Remember if his time is only two fridays a month, then no, it's not reasonable to schedule something on his time without his consent or Mom needs to be willing to readjust the schedule to give him some time for a visit.[/quote]
You think kids should be denied the opportunity to participate in the extracurricular activity of their choice because of a custody agreement they didn’t have any say in?[/quote]

If dad gets almost no time and those days have scheduled activities, don’t be surprised when dad feels alienated and gives up. [/quote]

Why wouldn't the dad go to those scheduled activities?[/quote]

Because unless the kid is 7, practices are usually closed [/quote]

So bring them to or from the practice and get dinner together on the way home.  Like a parent would in any other situation.  That's still parenting, even if it's not as convenient for you.[/quote]

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