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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are never hosting a boozy party and do not permit high school drinking. Nonetheless, if my kids were to drink, I’d prefer that they be doing so at someone’s house rather than random parking lots and fields where we drank as high school students. [b]While I don’t want to allow my kids to drink, I also don’t want their first experiences with alcohol to be in college.[/b]  I saw how that played out for many kids and it was not good.[/quote]

I really cannot wrap my heads around this. So you want your kids to break the law? You do realize that drinking under the age of 21 is illegal and as this very thread pointed out, that kids and parents can and do get fined and jailed for underaged drinking, right?

What other crimes do you want your kid to get out of the way under your nose or their friends' parents noses so you can say they aren't doing it for the first time in college?

An adult experimenting with risky behavior, which is what college students are, is ALWAYS going to be far superior to an underdeveloped minor.[/quote]

NP. Your line of thinking is just as illogical as the parent who hosted the party. A college freshman is still underage but with even less of a scaffold while at college. I don’t support my child drinking, but I’d rather we have conversations about how to handle this and they have a beer every once in awhile than start in college. You’re just one other side of the spectrum in the gradient of extremes. [/quote]

The false equivalency you're making here doesn't make sense to me at all. Not endorsing and excusing underage drinking is just as illogical as hosting underage drinking at a party? How?

Again: It is a fact that a 15 or 16 year-old drinking alcohol is always going to be worse than an 18 or 19-year-old doing those things. Every year of maturity counts when it comes to engaging in risky or adult-like behavior.

If you think it's better to enable them to drink in high school than college because...."there's less of a scaffold," uh ok. I have no idea what that means, but I guess it means it's better to do it in high school because you're there to clean up their vomit and bail them out of trouble and pick them up if they get an alcohol citation? Good luck with that.[/quote]

My guess is you don’t have too many friends and your kids are either younger or they’re generally not interested in parties and/or alcohol. You just insist on digging in those heels and The way you speak to people is just awful. You’re very unlikeable. [/quote]

My guess is you lack a moral compass and have poor character, which make you a go-along just to get-along kind of person who suffers from a clear sense of right from wrong.

If you want to pass onto your children that it's ok to engage in self-destructive behavior that is harmful in the long-term and illegal in the short-term just because everyone else is doing it, that's on you. Nevermind that it's not actually "everyone" doing it, but merely a portion of the population that you and your teen have decided are worth conforming to, so you can be accepted and fit in, regardless of the cost.

You're literally raising your child with the mentality that if everyone is jumping off the bridge, you should do it too, instead of teaching them to think critically and independently about what is healthy, right and good for them. You're very unlikable and toxic to our community's wellbeing.[/quote]

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