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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I guess many parents are going off their own experiences. I’m not sure where everyone was raised, but almost everyone in my high school drank alcohol. Our parents looked the other way and never discussed it with us. I drank every weekend in high school and college. I graduated with honors and now have a post doctoral level education.

I think it’s unrealistic for my social teen to never drink. For me, it was part of the high school experience. I have a different relationship with my teen and we discuss drinking, drugs, and sex. DC knows no drugs, no drinking and driving, and no sex with others that have been drinking. DC has boundaries with drinking and follows them. DC has called me and asked for a ride when DC had drank. DC knew not to drive home. DC knows it’s a crime to have sex with someone who is too intoxicated to give consent. DC tells friends not to do this as well.

FWIW, most of my friends attended great colleges and are now professionals. I don’t drink at all now.[/quote]

So, people have to stop assuming their experiences or the experiences of their circles are universal.

I grew up in MCPS. I'm not going to say that I didn't hear about some teens who went to house parties and engaged in drinking, but I DID NOT because my parents did not allow me to indulge or engage in such behavior. They were not dropping me off to someone's house to get drunk. That was simply not a thing for me and my friend circle.

Your kids will, for the most part, do what you allow and set boundaries for. If you remove no drinking as a boundary, well, yeah. They're going to do it. If you remove no drinking as an expectation, then you're just moving the goal post to even more extreme behavior.

Also, if you go with your attitude, and your teen gets an alcohol citation at a friend's house party that gets busted by the cops, and now they have to pay a fine or show up in court and they ask you, "But mom, you said it was ok if I drink. How come I'm in trouble with the police?" How do you respond?

You are creating a whole host of problems with this mindset and there's an inconsistency of logic that fundamentally undermines your authority as a parent.[/quote]

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