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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So that they learn to handle a breakup in a supervised manner & get relationship experience. Am I the only person who feels this way?[/quote]

No, no. I am sure there are many others who feel like you.  There are also many others who are not like you.

For example, I would not want to have my kids be interested in dating in HS because I think they can wait till they get into college. I think in HS they should be concentrating on academics.  I do not want them getting into starter relationships because there is no value to it.  50% of US marriages end in divorce. And a majority of marriages have mismatched libido. There is zero benefit of being in a relationship so young. Better to concentrate on your future career so that you have a good life and eventually the aim is to have a very small selective dating pool.

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Totally disagree. I'm not interested in "supervising" my children's relationships or breakups, but I think there is real value to exploring relationships when the relationship stakes are low.  As teens, we have strong feelings, but everybody knows that college is looming and these infatuations may not be life-long.  That's the perfect time to date, see what works for you, and move on if and when the time comes.

I actually think the academic stakes are higher in college than in high school - so why would you want to be trying out your first relationship then?!?  The people I knew in my 20s who hadn't dated previously were the first to jump into marrying their first boyfriend/girlfriend.  Spoiler alert, most are divorced now.  Better to have multiple experiences with different relationships in relatively low-pressure environments to figure out what 'works' for you, then use that knowledge in your 20s/30s to choose the right life-long partner.[/quote]

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