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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wonder long long people on this thread have actually been married? I've been married now for 20 years, and your marriage is going through very, very normal doldrums. People have highly unrealistic expectations of marriage. There are months, if not years, when things are tough, boring, or just not that great. Romance ebbs and flows.
What does marriage really mean to you? For me, it's a commitment through thick and thin. Barring abuse and maybe infidelity, when a couple is together for 50-60 years over the course of their lifetime, you have to accept that there are going to be ups and downs. [/quote]

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This sounds wise (and I'm a hopeless romantic, fwiw). OP, don't give up -- you promised to love this person for life. Having kids makes everything more stressful, including (maybe especially) relationships. Reduce stress in other parts of your life, spend time together without kids and without devices, take a trip away just the two of you if you can. In terms of retirement areas, this is why snowbirds exist! You can live in multiple places mutliple parts of the year. Don't be inflexible about it .And you may change your views as you age. I used to hate hate hate the cold but then I learned to ski...[/quote]

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