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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi there, I have a "scary" 2 year old as well, so totally commiserate.  I also have an easy going happy 4 year old, so fortunately for me, I know it's not about parenting.  It's not your fault.  Kids are just wired differently.  My general advice is to ignore unwanted behavior and profusely reward (with praise) good behavior you want to see.  When he is tantruming, ignore and DO NOT give in to whatever it is he wanted.  You can comfort him or just be there quietly while he does his thing.  When he does well, praise praise praise and give all your affection and adoration.

Around 2 is when they start developing their sense of self and want to push boundaries.  It will help to give him as many choices as possible (do you want to brush your teeth first or change into PJs?), give lots of head up for transitions even when they don't understand concept of time well (2 more minutes and then we have to go).  Kids, especially strong willed kids, will not cooperate with you if they don't feel like they are practicing enough freedom and autonomy.

How are his language skills?  2 is also an age where their language often can't satisfy their need to communicate, so a lot of frustration.  Not much to do here but to accept it and wait it out.

Speaking of strong willed kids, I would recommend "Raising your spirited child" if you think you have one.  If anything, it will help you understand his perspective and that it's not personal.  He is not trying to scare you or ruin your life or give you PTSD.  I find that understanding goes a long way to helping me be more patient and to not let it get to me. And the more patient I am, the more he responds.  Good luck![/quote]

Same poster, just clarifying that my 4 year old has always been easy going.  Year 2 was a breeze with him but not so with his little brother. [/quote]
What to do when child kicks you?[/quote]

Immediately set him down somewhere safe.  Room with carpet, crib, etc.  Firmly tell him no kicking.  He will tantrum at this point and let him run his course.  Soothe him if he asks but if he starts kicking or hitting again, repeat.  Once he has calmed down, hug and make up and reaffirm that you love him and now explain to him why kicking/hitting is not allowed.  And depending on age, tell him clearly consequences for future kicking.  For a younger 2 year old, just tell him kicking hurts mommy and if he kicks again, he will be put down in crib again. [/quote]

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