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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Most of my friends are horribly afraid to open their homes to others. I don’t know why. So when 10 of us get together regularly but only 3 feel comfortable hosting after the 5th time I feel like others need to contribute.
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Contribute is one thing, potluck is another. There's a huge difference to me between the hosts saying "can you bring a salad or dessert?" when they invite us (the answer to which is pretty much always yes) and sending around a spreadsheet with stuff you need to sign up for.

Also, as people who are very good at cooking and will do a good job with our contribution, I resent potlucks because I know many/most other people will not. We'll show up with a carefully thought out side or main that we put time into planning and executing, and half of the other guests will show up with something they grabbed from the grocery store on the way over. If they remember at all -- I've been to potlucks where there basically was no main because someone forgot to bring meat for grilling or something (I also think it's obnoxious for the hosts not to just plan the main and farm out the sides/apps/dessert).

Some people can't host for whatever reason (small house, pets, they are hoarders, I don't know) but that's not an excuse for planning potlucks for all your hosting gigs and doing a piss poor job even at that.[/quote]

Op here. So it’s sounds like you are in the no potluck crowd? I’ve only ever been to potlucks at holiday and of course at work but you make it sound unorganized and not fun. [/quote]

We have friends who only ever host at their house if it's potluck style. They sometimes have a main (usually meat for grilling) but sometimes not. I find their potlucks to be pretty poorly organized and it always feels like they are really demanding -- multiple emails if you haven't signed up for something within a day or two of getting the invite, often repeat calls for people to bring more things if fewer people RSVP yes, etc.

I've been to potlucks that are much more chill than that, but they tend to be neighborhood or office gatherings, where people bring casseroles or big sides and no one is trying to compose a functional dinner for a smaller group of people. That doesn't really bother me -- the whole point is that no one in particular is hosting.

But hosting a potluck at your house where it's an excuse to do literally NO cooking is kind of annoying.[/quote]

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