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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just don’t stress about it. I realized that I’d make myself crazy trying to cover for my DH to maintain the level of what I would do. I would have to nag him all the time and get in the middle of things. So I just let myself off the hook for that relationship. Do I think it’s incredibly rude of “us” when it’s November and we haven’t confirmed our holiday schedule when our in laws have offered to host us? YES. *I* would never do that. But it’s not my problem, it’s my husband’s problem. They raised him and that’s why he sucks. I can’t fix it for them now. [/quote]

+1 Let his family know early and often that you expect your husband to be an equal partner in arranging his side’s holidays, vacations and birthdays. Direct them to your husband until they get the message. Being an owner of a vagina does not mean you’re in charge of all social niceties.[/quote]

I organize engagements with my side, he does it with his.  He's not very good at it so we don't see them often and never get them gifts, unless I'm ordering baskets for everyone, which is easy.  His family makes comments as if it's my responsibility. Last christmas his mom even said, "I'm so glad you let Larlo spend Christmas with us".  I responded "Oh, im not responsible for anything he does.  He plans the trips to see you
  I'm just along for the ride.  I do the Smith side; he does the Jones side".  I could almost see her mind explode.[/quote]

Ugh I love this and seriously wish I had an opportunity to say it to my MIL (whom I know blames me for the fact that we see my family more often than his) without just randomly saying it out of the blue [/quote]
And what is the real reason?[/quote]

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