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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel for women who gave up babies for adoption, thinking they were making a private decision. An old friend of mine wanted nothing more than to put her pregnancy, delivery, and adoption far behind her. Her husband knows, but she never told her daughter. She hopes her first child has a wonderful life, but she has zero interest interest in getting to know her. Now she’s worried that her son or another relative will join one of these sites, linking her to the child she put up for adoption. It’s so complicated.[/quote]

It's not a private decision.  That was one of the  horrible aspects of adoption in the baby scoop era. Adoption was about the adults involved, never the child. The child has a basic civil and biological right to know who his parents were, who he is related to, and the circumstances around his birth. Golden Retrievers come with more information.

The child's relatives also have a right to know who they are related to.  They have a right to know who their siblings are. A child is not some shameful mistake someone can refile in a locked cabinet and pretend it didn't happen.  Babies are not commodities or products.

To answer this post,  yes, the child that was given up will be able to find the mother, the siblings, everyone,  and vice versa. The people in question don't even need to take a test thenselves. It will be some third cousin and the ancillary public paper trail will lead right to the source. [/quote]

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