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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OMG!!!

Why do you women keep marrying these incompetent men?!?!

My husband literally does half of everything. That was my expectation from day 1.  His expectation was the same, literally half.  Yes, I'm responsible for bringing in 50% of the income. It takes the pressure off him too.  We both rise in our careers, although maybe at a slightly slower rate, but our income has been in the top 1% for 18 years - rather than after one of us hit some career milestone.  Oh, and yes, he also took leave with each kid - 3 months FMLA (unpaid).  I tool 3 months of which 2 weeks were paid.[/quote]

Listen, I have an incredibly equitable marriage as well. But, it is obnoxious to act like you have some sort of superior wisdom and judgment here. Yes, some women make bad choices and ignore red flags. Yes, some men lie and act like feminists until kids come along. Some women are pushovers who think they have to work hard outside the home and then excel at all things Martha Stewart as well. There are many ways these happens. But much of it is the inherent misogyny of the system that all women are born into.

In my case, I married a guy that isn’t a jerk who fully supports my career. He does a ton around the house and with the kids. The trade off is that I’m the primary breadwinner and hold the insurance for us all. I am fully appreciative that I could not have risen to the top in my career is I was married to about 98% of men in this world. Few men would be like “hey, no problem if you travel to Asia and back three times in seven weeks.” — which is the kind of stuff my husband handled.[/quote]

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