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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I didn't let anybody come over without flu/TDAP and this was pre-covid.  Only very, very close family (grandparents, essentially) met her before 2 month shots, and then more after 4 month.  All of this was pre-covid, and I would have no problem being stricter now. [b] Nobody visits the first week, that's insane.[/b]  I would simply say no to that - do not come in from another state before the 6 week mark, it will not be worth the travel because we won't be up for visitors or baby-holders until the 6 week mark.

Most importantly, drill this list and your concerns with DH, and make sure he knows it's *his* job to make sure his family isn't getting on your nerves.  It's your job to recover from childbirth and try to establish breastfeeding.[/quote]

You sound really, really weird and insular [/quote]

You think it's normal to host houseguests the day you get home from the hospital?  Not just normal, but choosing not to do that is "really, really weird"?  I barely had a shirt on the first two weeks I was home, there's no way I wanted my in laws sleeping on my floor.  I'll stay weird and happy, you be a doormat if it's normal to you.[/quote]

Huh. First of all, you said “having visitors in the first WEEK is insane”, not the first day home from the hospital. Totally different. That said, nothing doormat-y about it; I love my family and have loved witnessing them meeting my babies - I feel sad for you that you don’t have the same. [/quote]

Yes, I came home early day 4.  There aren't many more days in that first week.  You're trying too hard to make people feel crazy for having extremely normal boundaries.  My family and in laws visited when it was comfortable for me and still adore my kid.  Sorry you felt that outcome wasn't possible in your family without having zero boundaries.  See how that works?[/quote]

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