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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do think this is too many rules and being too rigid about rules, BUT

I really agree with your first rule because this is something that people can be really unrealistic about. Both my mom and my MIL were incredibly demanding about wanting to hold the baby and would actually speak sharply to me when I asked to take the baby back. My MIL once accused me of feeding the baby "too often" just to have an excuse to take the baby back (baby was a month old! we were feeding at normal intervals). Both of them said to me at one point that it was "unfair" for me to ask to hold the baby because "you get to hold her all the time."

I just think it's really rude to tell a woman who is within that 6 week postpartum period that she can't hold her own baby. It's selfish and cruel. A woman who recently gave birth should get to hold her baby whenever she wants.

So I'd stick with that rule and I'd encourage your DH to back you up, if you think it will be an issue.

The other stuff is too much. It's fine to set some of those boundaries, but sending people a list that long will just make them feel like you hate them and don't want them to see the baby at all.[/quote]

That’s fine and I agree with you; but I don’t think that should laid out as a RULE pre-visit….talk about setting a weird tone. That’s something that - IF it happens, you address in the moment. Don’t do that now, it’s not needed and will just make you sound crazy. There’s every good chance that what they’ve said is their way of expressing that they’re really, really excited to meet and hold your baby - which is wonderful! [/quote]

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