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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So the answer is stigma.[/quote]

There is still stigma but that isn't the reason you don't just ask him about a possible gay relationship.  The reason is because it's his story to tell.  When we come out, we are being vulnerable and opening ourselves up.  We are telling people who we are in our core.  Coming out can be very hard/scary to do even when we know someone will be accepting because of how vulnerable it makes us.  It's up to every LGBT person to decide who to come out to, when to come out, and how to come out.  Being forced out of the closet is traumatizing.  You're asking them to give you a piece of themselves that they are still nurturing and growing.  I'm not really sure how else to explain it.  And if he's not ready, you're going to either force him to lie to you or out come out before he's ready.

Coming out is about us.  It's our story.  It's not your story or about you.[/quote]

Why is your sexuality elevated compared to heterosexual? Why wouldn't there be unilateral expectations? You know that gay and queer youth are sexually abused at higher rates than hetero. I can assure you the putting the oneous on a teen to disclose and not having family support and keeping secrets is all part of that[/quote]

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