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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mom didn’t save anything for retirement. We had to move her in with us. She literally has $60k to her name plus social security. Her living with us has put a terrible strain on my marriage. Please - advice and ideas on what to do??
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We did this for 2.5 years with my MIL and it was miserable. She was miserable. We were miserable. We ended up spending so much money because of the stress. We were constantly trying to be out of the house. She would not keep up with hygiene and had a cat that destroyed the room she was in. It was death by 1000 cuts. 
The doctors would not approve her for dementia housing so she moved back home. She gets checked on every other day and has all her needs taken care of. 
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Also she was and is a hoarder. She spent all of her money on QVC/Plants that were still getting delivered to her house. She never pitched in with our kid or cleaning or anything. The only time I could get in to clean her room was when she went to the doctor. We had to throw out every item that was in her room, which we bought. She would not eat meals with us and left her dishes in her room or on the stove. 
I was trying to get dinner together one day and she was eating something else because she would never eat at the same time as us even if dinner was 30 minutes out she would ask my DH to make her something else. My son was coloring at the table with her and she watched him walk outside and went back to eating. The door was unlocked because she let her cat out, which I repeatedly asked her not to do because the cat would tear up the screen door and scratch the glass when it wanted to come back in. So unlocked door and didn't say anything and went back to eating and my son was up on his playground equipment at 2.5-ish without an adult. 
When I asked her why she didn't say anything or stop him or let me know....she just shrugged and went back to eating. 
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