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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had a similar situation with my DD who graduated HS in 2021.  
She got into her ED school in December of 2020.  She then ignored it for the longest time...I tried not to be concerned because nothing really happens until after May 1.  But May 1 came and went and she was not checking the website, etc.

I had access to her email (w/permission) and so I got on there and realized that she had not even OPENED any emails from her school, let alone signed up for the placement tests or checked into housing.

Long story short; previously undiagnosed ADHD and I ended up hiring an educational consultant to teach her some executive functioning skills and walk through the enrollment process with her.

She is at a top 10 school, in her second year, and other than having a horribly messy dorm room, she is doing fine, OP.  She does not need me to assist her at all. (Except when she comes home, she does revert but I hear that most kids do)

At the advice of her therapist, we did get her tested again a few weeks ago, and she came back on the spectrum (High Functioning Autism, or ASD 1, or formerly known as Asbergers). We don't have the final report yet so I'm not sure if the ADHD diagnosis still stands or if the ASD diagnosis explains it.

Anyways I am going to the trouble to explain all this because I don't think the answer to paralysis is to offer a gap year because that's like offering more paralysis.  I think when in the "river" it's easy to float downstream, but if sidelined, it's hard to get anywhere.

HTH![/quote]

THIS. similar situation in 2021, DC was thrilled to be accepted to first choice RD. But then Did Nothing. Transitions were always difficult, and moving to college is one of the biggest. 
I basically did the same PP. Opened up the emails, got her moving forward....
Also got them therapy down the road, but I just knew that deferral, delay, gap year was NOT the answer. They just needed the right nudging. Some would say I was a helicopter, they would be right. But those same people would also say They are Not Ready for 4 years! That is jumping the gun in an extreme way. 
They are now wrapping up her Sophomore year, pulling 3.7 GPA, going into second internship this summer. So they are 100% doing fine.
Only you know your kid OP, and what the best course of action is. 
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