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 Distance makes it hard but I would like to be supportive and helpful. I guess I'm just wondering what others have done in similar situations, living far away with siblings near parents, and what this means your role is.[/quote]

I'm a sibling who loves far away from our two parents. Two siblings live in the same town.

My role is to accept that my two siblings have more to say about what happens with our parents. I visit from out own town for a day or two each time, and try to focus on whatever my siblings say needs to happen. I bring up the difficult conversations, I cajole and badger my parents to get something done; I make them actually pick up the phone and make the appointments; I risk letting my parents get angry with me for being to bossy and forceful and saying what my siblings don't want to say.

I do whatever dirty work needs to be done in the time I am there, because my siblings are doing so much work the weeks I am not there, basically.

I guess what I am saying is, my role is to be the bad guy.

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pp, that's super kind of you. We were the siblings nearby, and we did both the grunt work and the "bossy" work - it makes you feel resentful because the distant one can also be the "nice" one, always. That was really big of you.  [/quote]

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