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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m sorry, OP. I think it just would not be on your friends’ radar that these things would be so offensive to you, especially after such a long time. Are they texting these things directly to you, or just posting on social media?[/quote]

OP here. It's my SIL (husband's sister) who posts and texts pictures of MIL, or herself with MIL. She mainly posts on her social media and occasionally sends pictures directly to me. She and MIL are very close.

Friends and acquaintances do not text pictures, they just mention the happy occasions with their parents.  I know they're not doing this to gloat. I am happy for them but I always feel sad afterwards. [/quote]

Have you been to therapy? I found it helpful to process things after my dad died. I would also stop following your SIL on social media. is she directly sending you texts of her with her mom or are these group chats? It seems strange to me that she would directly send you texts like this, but everyone is different.

if it makes you feel better, my only living parent has Alzheimer's, which in many ways is worse than having a dead parent. When I see people with healthy parents the same age as my mom, it stings but only for a second. Honestly you just have to accept that it is impossible for people to understand what it is like to lose a parent until they have been there - just like with many of life's traumas.[/quote]

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