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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would ask. A job is a just a job. If you’re not ready to go back, you should advocate for yourself, whether that means asking for unpaid leave or quitting.

I took maternity leave with every intention of coming back at the end of it, but a combination of PPD, Covid, and difficulty finding childcare led me to quit at the end of it. The place I left was a toxic dump anyway. Do I wish things had worked out differently? Yes, partially because I don’t want to give moms on leave a bad name. But I had to prioritize my own well-being and that of my baby. [/quote]

Can I ask why you think this gives moms on leave a bad name? I think I understand but want to clarify. It’s so hard that people think this. [/quote]

PP. I think some people probably think this was my plan all along, to game the system and get paid for several months of not working and then quit. In reality, it was an agonizing decision that I only came to after experiencing panic attacks and breakdowns and realizing that I wasn’t going to be able to return to work. But for a lot of reasons, I think some people don’t give parents (usually moms) on leave a lot of grace or benefit of the doubt.[/quote]

Ha!  You knew from the get go that you planned to game the system   I've known too many employees like you and burned too many times.  [/quote]

I will give PP the benefit of the doubt that she didn't know what would happen when she was due to come back from leave, but unfortunately, people like PP do ruin it for the rest of the new parents who need a little more grace in their return to office plans.[/quote]

No one has ruined anything for anyone except the people posting in this forum about greed and discouraging moms from what they need after baby. [/quote]

My company has absolutely gotten burned by being overly generous and granting more and more time for leave and then turning around and deciding at the end of the time to not return. It is hard not to take those lived experiences and extrapolate them to the next person who wants some sort of special set-up WRT their return from leave.

My company offers a VERY generous parental leave (24 weeks fully paid) so at that point, unless there is some sort of disability we need to accommodate for, we ask that people come back or resign - no additional unpaid time off (again unless legally required, that's a different conversation). [/quote]

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