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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is not a real question and I don't want an answer. But I am a socially awkward guy who is successful. By no means do I think I'm perfect, but I would love to come in from work one day and hear that I did something well. Does that ever happen to men?

I come home and try to spend time with her but she always tells me she doesn't want to hear about our direct care about my interests whether that be books or TV shows or games, parenting whatever. No-go.

Instead, she'll point out things I do wrong that I guess embarrass her and focus on that, telling me how to improve. But then I improve and [b]create another dependency [/b]and the cycle repeats.

It's frustrating because I feel like she married this nerdy dude and she knew he was nerdy. Now she's trying to change me for social acceptance, and meanwhile nerdy me feels isolated. [/quote]

What does this mean?  [/quote]

She says "you bring your Rubik's cube too often to parties"
I'll get a notebook and bring it to the party. I'm social but at dull moments I'll write in it, just thoughts, maybe a question, maybe song lyrics
So later I'll see her and she criticizes the notepad. 
Fast forward and I have something else. But these fidget things help with social anxiety and she seems to be against them. Maybe more some than others, but why does she get to be the social police for me. [/quote]

This does not sound like she doesn't like you.
She nags too much.

Talk to her and tell her to please let some of your quirkiness go. Tell her you understand how she feels and you will continue trying to meet her in the middle. But tell her to lay off a little because it seems like too much criticism and it brings you down.

I have some issues with my husband on regards to him being too introverted. But I love the man more than I could ever express. He loves me too so he sees a therapist every week for some of the anxiety. I don't criticize and he stays home a lot. When I cannot compromise, I let him know: " I really need you to be at such and such" event and he shows up. I don't abuse it.

You and your wife have communication issues. You need to really listen to each other. Only then can both of you compromise. Counseling might help. [/quote]

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