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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A $700k difference in annual income isn’t that big of a deal. I’d say having kids vs not having kids is a bigger divide.

Once these DINK people have kids they will likely be spending $60k annually on a nanny, $40k per kid for private school, a zillion activities/tutoring/lessons/sports, and hefty mortgage and home maintenance expenses. Taxes. Assuming they live in a nice area.

It’s amazing how quickly a $1M annual salary can get eaten up once you add a few kids into the mix.

And once you’re a parent, esp a mother, it sort of realigns your priorities.

I am a SAHM in a very nice neighborhood. My friends and neighbors definitely have a lot more than we do. FT housekeepers, nannies, private school, amazing vacations. Two have husbands who are picked up daily by drivers. I am drawn to moms who are deeply committed to being around and raising their kids themselves, don’t have extended families who are local, and those who aren’t from this area. These commonalities seem to outweigh the extreme differences in income. 
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I love how you worked shaming working moms in there. Good for you! I probably have less than you but I got to see my 4 year old daughter running around telling everyone her mommy was a doctor. [/quote]

I’m not shaming working moms at all. What made you think that? That I said deeply committed to being around and raising their kids? What I meant was that sometimes when people have the money to hire a lot of help, they aren’t around much. Dinners out every night, fundraisers, constant traveling without the kids, etc. Plenty of women work FT and are are deeply committed to raising their own children. They make sure they’re home most evenings for bedtime, attend the games on the weekends, host play dates, know their children’s friends, volunteer at school, etc. That’s what I’m talking about. It has nothing to do with working or not working. Or having help or not having help. It’s about valuing being around for your kids; connecting with them; showing up. [/quote]

You’re not helping the SAHM/working mom divide here.  You wrote deeply committed and raising kids themselves with no family help.  And instead of being like oh yeah oops or sorry you act like folks don’t understand what you wrote correctly.  [/quote]

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