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[quote=Anonymous]I am one of the &quot;poor&quot; relatives and it wasn't easy for me to navigate the relationships my &quot;rich&quot; siblings.
After a while, I learned that I was the problem. I was trying to prove that I didn't need their help and generosity. This made me angry and resentful.
Now I have accepted that we can't be equal. This is ok. We can be complementary and bring different things to the relationship.

The gap between us is significant. HHI is 100k and we have 2 kids. Theirs is &gt;1M. Their lifestyle is on another level. Our kids are around the same age. 
We can't afford the type of vacations they do. I would often decline when they offered to pay for us so we could go together. 
I can't afford activities or summer camps for my kids. They offered to pay so all of our kids could be together, I declined. My DH felt like a loser, embarrassed.
This affected our relationship with my siblings to the point that we were avoiding them because we didn't want to feel like we were living off them.

We realized that we were the problem. Now we let them offer us everything they want. Our kids are happy. 
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