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[quote=Anonymous]It does not matter if your parents said that or not. You talk to your parents and make clear your own boundaries. Then you open it up to your brother. If it's a functional family this will go find. If it isn't expect plenty of dramatics and your parents and brother teaming up against you. Expect words like "selfish" to be used to try to verbally beat you into submission.

You just calmly and politely reiterate your boundaries which are subject to change to being even more tight if you have your own family emergencies in the family you created. (Happens often). You give them some options. If they decline and bury their heads in the sands, you mention your concerns so when the shit hits the fan you don't feel guilty that you cannot swoop in and make everything right.

You have to respect their rights to make their own poor decisions. You don't have to rescue them from their own poor decisions. You set your boundaries and when the crisis hits you figure out what you can handle. It would be good to already be in therapy at the time so you have someone to help keep you grounded and to help you see clearly.[/quote]

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