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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Girl… hopefully theyre not going to inherit that money until you guys are well into retirement. Also, it depends on her remaining married to her husband. Dh and I both come from well off families, but he will probably inherit significantly more- this feels like such a long way off and doesn’t have much impact on our day to life, apart the gifts our parents give us now- [b]like help with down payment or telling us they will fund college for our kids, so we don’t need to contribute to 529s for them.[/b] Also tragically, something could happen to our marriage or dh or me in which case, we wouldn’t inherit anything from our spouse.

You need to get over such an eventual difference in lifestyle. And even if they inherited the money tomorrow, she’d still be your sister. My siblings are all more professionally successful than I am and comparison is the thief of joy. [/quote]

Do you realize what a huge privilege it is to have your downpayment and children's colleges paid for???

You do not think having a close sibling for whom these are not issues would be triggering? [/quote]

I have cousins who have this level of wealth. I’m happy for them. I have friends in this exact situation . I’m happy for them, too.  Maybe it’s different for me, since it’s not new information. OP is probably having trouble adjusting because it’s a change to a metric that’s at the core of family identity—the need to work hard and struggle. The sister jumped ahead in this very salient dimension, and OP needs to give herself time to adjust. [/quote]

+1000

Op is human. It's human nature to feel jealous and envy. Whats important is how to manage these feelings and emotions.

Op, these feelings will eventually subside. Process these emotions as well as you can.

Love and be happy for your sister.

At least you'll benefit from vacations and going out to high end restaurants with your sister! :)[/quote]

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