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[quote=Anonymous]One of my kids once told me the mom across the street was prettier than I was. She did indeed meet all the standard American markers for conventional attractiveness, but she was/is also just incredibly nice, even-tempered, etc. Instead of being hurt, we talked about why he liked that family so much, why our family wasn't like that, what it would take for me to even come close, why those weren't tradeoffs I was willing to make, and why I thought the best things about that mom didn't have anything to do with her looks. And then I told him that we're taught to value prettiness, and it's mean to tell someone they're not because it might really hurt their feelings, and being unkind is much worse than not looking a certain way. And then I told him that smelliness was bad and it was time for his bath. [/quote]
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