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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our family was pretty LMC when we were growing up and one of the common theme in our life that bonded us was struggling to make a good life for ourselves. I do pretty ok for myself with a 110k salary and with a DH who makes 200k-150k. My sister however married a trust fund kid who is set to inherit about 20 mil or after his parents pass. They do pretty well for a couple in their early thirties (300k-350k hhi) but the thought that she will be a multimillionaire in our lifetime is…staggering to me. Like I can’t process it because it changes how I view her?

[b]I find myself feeling insecure and embarrassed around her and my BIL. It’s like no matter how many raises I get… I’ll never catch up to her blessings. [/b]And suddenly all of the things that keep me up at night ( saving for retirement, college for kids, downpayment for a house) are just…none issues for her. And she’s changed too, more relaxed and content. She has that relaxed easy going rich girl vibe now. It’s insane how money changes you.

Yeah…it’s a lot of mixed feelings.. [/quote]

You control your own destiny. If you want to get rich quick and catch up to her, nothing stops you from divorcing your husband, and marrying a trust fund kid. 
Maybe you'll even do better and man who is rich outright. There is gold out there, you just need to dig it.[/quote]

This is the stupidest thing on this thread. As if trust fund kids are out there waiting to be married for their money. Ridiculous. It’s like saying anybody could be a pro basketball player if they wanted to. OP, I know trust fund babies, but I don’t let it define our relationships. I never ask or even hint for money. I don’t shy away about discussing why we did X, if a financial limitation was the reason, but otherwise I try not to let it come up.  Relationships with good people are a blessing in and of themselves. Acknowledge that jealousy for sure, but also acknowledge that you have lot of great things going on in your life, including your good relationship with your sister. You can sit in that feeling for a period, but don’t get stuck in it. [/quote]

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