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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No. If you've never had a teenager in crisis, you can't grasp how impulsive, vulnerable, irritable, and self-destructive a teenager without a support system/ small friend group, can be.[/quote] While this is true, there are also a good number of very emotionally healthy teens who would weather this change just fine. They might not be thrilled or happy about it, especially at first. But think of the confidence your child could have from managing this move, making a NEW group of great friends, and having a great time on a new coast. Also you can start watching 90210 from the beginning because this is exactly what happens to Brenda and Brandon :) [/quote] If the move is against your child’s wishes, and he feels like he has no input, he may self-destruct just to spite you. I wouldn’t expect a, “Gee, mom, you were so right to uproot me and I gained so much confidence from this wonderful new change.”[/quote] This is just so dramatic. Yes it's possible. But if your child can only stay in their one known eco-system or their life falls apart, you may have other problems. I completely understand the argument that adolescence is a tough time for big changes. But just because it's difficult doesn't mean it's impossible to have a good outcome. Yes, your kid may go off the rails they are so upset. But I think if you go into a big move with the awareness that this might be hard for your kid, that helps a huge amount. You are able to support and help your kid thrive in a new spot. It still may not be their idea of fun, but to never entertain the idea at ALL is ridiculous.[/quote]
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