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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've experienced this but never thought of it as gatekeeping.

I think these are the kinds of things you are talking about:

I am chatting with Person A (who I don't know terribly well but we're having a nice time) and Person B comes over and starts a conversation with Person A where I am cut out and can't participate and am left standing there.  Usually insider stuff about their kids and teams, etc.

I have met Person C a couple of times and when I see Person C sitting with a group they don't bother to even wave hello and say hi when I walk right by the group and they obviously see me.

This kind of thing right?

I have always just thought these people are rude a-holes and never thought of it as gatekeeping.  I think they are doing me a favor by showing me who they are.  And then I go hang out with people who are not like that.[/quote]

I try to be very inclusive when this happens (scenario 1). If I'm talking to someone and my other friend or acquaintance approaches and starts a conversation with me, I try to make sure the first person is included in the conversation. Because yes, this has definitely happened to me many times (as the one who is suddenly the 3rd wheel when a new person joins the group).I am, however, terrible at making introductions. I have a mental block or something. [/quote]

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