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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]it seems that no matter what we say, you want to invite your friend and her kid.  So just admit that.

The kid and your kid are not friends.  It makes no sense why you have to invite them.  They're 10 not 4.  I'd hate to be the 10 year old that has to hang with adults because they have no friends there.  And I know you keep saying it is at a large venue, but there is still food and cake I assume?  So they can sit with the table where no one talks to them, or better yet, the adults?

I think that would be worse for your friendship than not inviting.  I'd be embarrassed when my kid doesn't talk to their kid.  I don't know why you want to do this?[/quote]

I do want to invite my friend but I haven’t and probably won’t since my child doesn’t want to.

The friend is more like a cousin than regular friend. I hang out with the mom more than all my other friends combined.[/quote]

You are going to do what you are going to do and that is fine.

The kid is not like a cousin to your kid. Your kid does not want them at their birthday party. Your kid does not see the other kid as a friend or someone that he/she wants to play with.

I was excited to see my cousins and hang out with them. Granted, it meant flying across the country and a vacation but I liked hanging out with them and being with them. When we moved to where they lived I still saw them but we didn't hang out on a regular basis. They had their friends and lives and I built my own. I didn't invite them to my birthday gatherings and they didn't invite me to theirs. It was fine. I still talk to them and see them whenever I head out to visit that part of the country.

You keep tossing in these small things to make it sound like we should be all like "In that case.." First your kid doesn't want to invite kid X, then it was that the kid isn't cool, then it was the kid is kind of over weight, now its the kid is like a cousin.

Either you invite the kid, over your child's objection, and deal with a kid who is going to feel left out of the main party and your own kids being annoyed that the kid is there at all or you don't.[/quote]

They are the closest thing we have got to extended family. Dh and I both grew up without extended family. My kids have no first cousins and second cousins are all overseas.

I genuinely care for my friend and her family. My child is being a jerk and I’m not pleased.[/quote]
OP you think of these people as extended family but your kid clearly doesn’t. How often does your kid see this other kid? [/quote]

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