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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What if the story went like this:

"We have always hosted family holidays, have been doing so for years.  We really enjoy having people in our home and value being the gathering place for extended family.  This year, one part of the family decided that they wanted to host Easter at their house and have everybody travel there instead.  I initially agreed, but now I'm regretting it.  I just don't see what the problem was at my home and I'd really like to keep up that tradition for the kids in the family as long as possible.  So now I'm stuck.  The other family has no obligation to come to our house, obviously.  But are we obligated to all go to them all of a sudden and break the tradition?"

Point is- nobody is "right" here.  If it means a lot to you to host this time, sure you can say that you won't go to MILs and to offer to host everybody.  Absolutely.  But it apparently means a lot to MIL to have people there.  Just decide what matters more.
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If this was posted I would tell the poster that traditions evolve as families grow. [b]If the in-laws insist on hosting, they can't be upset that people don't always want to travel to them and some holidays may now be apart. You can insist on hosting, or insist on being together, but not both[/b]. [/quote]

The same sentiment would apply to OP, right?  OP is now the one "insisting" on hosting.

Again, not saying OP is wrong or right, just that when two people want to host....they just need to work it out by deciding what matters more.  And it seems like the "traveling" isn't so relevant here, as we are talking about driving two hours.[/quote]

NP here. Disagree. The one who has hosted for years has to share the hosting if someone else wants to give it a try. So unless parents are so infirm that they can't travel to their hosting kid, they don't get to hoard all the holidays.

I say this as someone who detests hosting and will gladly go to someone else's house. [/quote]

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