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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you need to stop allowing your husband's parents to decide how to spend your money.

For example, when his parents showed up with the table you didn't ask for and then asked for $100 -- you should have very politely said "Oh, I'm sorry.  You are going to have to take this table back.   It wasn't in our budget, and it isn't something we want to buy.   We appreciate you thinking of us when you see something we might like, but in the future, if you want us to buy something and reimburse you, please call us first and see if it is something that we want."

I hope that's what you said, and that you didn't pay them the $100 for it!

If I were you, I would decline this birthday vacation.  Unless it is something YOU really want to do.  I would tell them that this type of vacation just isn't in your budget at the moment but that you hope they have a good time.

If you do go, I would have something come up with the baby and NOT go out to dinner if you think your husband will be stuck with half the bill for the whole family.  AGain, that if you both decide you do NOT want to treat the family!  If you DO want to treat the family to dinner that's a different story.

But then, I'd have your husband confer with his dad ahead of time -- "Dad, I was thinking I'd pay half the bill at dinner.   This is what I'm thinking it will cost and this is how much I am able to budget.  Does that sound right?  So I think I can afford XYZ but not ABC restaurant".   He has to spell it out ahead of time -- sounds like his dad likes to be perceived as a big spender but not tai ethe consequences of it.[/quote]

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